Wow!! Miss a few days, miss a lot. I am currently stuck in Florida, snarfing internet from a very watchful and cranky neighbor of our rental house. So, my only time to post is 2 am. But, you know me. I never can stay away from the Lex for long.
As to the question of the healthy of Bella & Edward's relationship, I have commented multiple times that it is, if you are going by the definitions we look at in the social work realm, a mix of both unhealthy (quick escalation and committment, behavior limitations for one partner by the other) and healthy(growth and progression, communication, mutual respect, intimacy), but most of the dynamics fall within the healthy spectrum, particularly at the end of the saga. But, most of us aren't looking at the social work definition, are we? Begging the pardon of those who have posted before who I can't recall who posted which, but I completely agree with those of you essentially pointed out that it is healthy and works for them. The relationship and the love it grows out of is intense and complicated and always will be. But, in the end, Edward & Bella are Edward & Bella and what they have is completely a part of that dynamic.
As for the discussion about whether or not the relationship is a good example for adolescents (male or female) to look to, again a yes and no answer. I completely agree with Amethyst in that we (and I am speaking about adults as a concerned one in general and the parent of an almost teenager myself) need to give our kids a little more credit. We live in a different world from when we grew up. I am not that old, and the world is a lot different even from when I was my son's age. Young men and women know and get so much more now than we did. Kids in general have had to grow up faster, deal with so much more than we did. So, to try and pigeonhole them and say they aren't ready for the messages in these novels is unfair to say the least.
That being said, I also completely agree with Ringswraith. As parents and as a community, we need to be more available to our young men and women. Whether as parents or as friends, rather than freaking out and saying they aren't old enough to deal with something, we need to be able to meet them where they are and work from there. Whether we think it is appropriate or not is kind of a moot point if they are already coming to us about it. Freaking out, forbidding or denying access to something is just a sure way to guarantee that whatever it is will become the hottest ticket in town and without guidance or understanding.
To asnwer the latest question, I know a lot of people disapproved of the fact that her transformation and new life were so easy for Bella. But, I disagree. I always took Bella's words to heart when she says it was like she was born to be a vampire. And, within the context of the supernatural love story, I think it makes complete sense. Also, I completely agree that Bella's choice and her preparation had a lot to do with how she turned out. There has been a lot of debate over whether or not Edward should have allowed James' venom to spread, or if he should have turned her or let Carlisle do it sooner. Once I think about it, I don't think so. I think Bella's choice and preparation as it plays out in the saga are what lead to her flawless transformation and adjustment to her new life.
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