Heart_in_Hand wrote:2) Renesmee is a girl. A father-daughter relationship is much different than a father-son relationship. Dad's tend to encourage promiscuity or at the least, extensive dating with their boys. They take pride in the fact that their boy is "becoming a man". But with their girls, they always see them as their little girl and really don't want them going out with boys at all. In fact, most dad's would prefer it if their daughters had a 10 mile radius around them that deters all young males. It's a huge and annoying double standard, but it stems from love and protectiveness for their baby girl, which you can't really be mad about. I have no doubt that Carlisle never felt that way about Edward, and we even see in MS how he really wants things to work between Edward and Bella... no matter what the consequences.
You had me with # 1, Heart_in_Hand. But, I have to disagree here on # 2. Edward's old-world attitudes and genteel qualities don't end with himself. He would definitely look to raise his child with the same respect and values, regardless of gender. While I think you are absolutely correct about the attitudes most fathers tend to have about their daughters' dating habits ( I know mine was that way and my husband is already planning how to display his sword collection in front of the door for the benefit of any daughter's suitors), I truly believe Edward would be the same with a son as with a daughter. I think he would have encouraged little EJ just the same as Renesmee; find a person you deeply love and be committed to one another. Remember, Edward was truly concerned about both his virtue and Bella's in his arguments against Bella's condition of making love before she was turned.