Getting back to Edward and Bella now, I do think maybe you are in recovery mode from this weekend so I will let you slip by on that.
I agree, I feel that people who have a realistic understanding and acceptance of themselves tend to be more accepting of others and their perceived flaws. Now, I think we've discussed how both Edward and Bella both have their own insecurities...could this be the root of some of their relationship/boundary issues?
Well anyone who falls in love for the first time is bound to have insecurities, because its new, and with Bella she has seen her parents divorced, and Edward has witness so many relationships, unwillingly with his "gift" of hearing what people really think.
So we can't say that their insecurities come from something abnormal. I believe most people would be cautious, and insecure just for those reasons. Now Bella and Edward did accept each other flaws and all, its only the people on the outside that don't want it to happen. There is of course Jacob who wants Bella, and Edward's family, because of their secret and possible bad fall out. Even then, Bella and Edward know that the love they feel is forever, and real, and they need to fight for it. Even when they have to fight within themselves, they still come to the same conclusion.
As the saying goes good things never come easy The doubts and their own flaws were minor compared to the love that they shared and that over came both of them.