The Dark Knight wrote:Here's a thread that might be fun to explore. What's up with Bella's obsession with Edward, seeing every detail, all those waking moments of frustration? Does this really happen? Have any of you experienced this? Insight anyone?
I think it is completely natural. Especially with the extenuating circumstances of their relationship. But, even for me, I know when I met husband, I spent several weeks just sort of watching him out of the corner of my eye. We lived in the same dorm, across the hall from each other my freshman year at university. We met first when he helped me carry my 9,412 boxes to the dumpster when no one else would. We made small talk. That was it. Nothing monumental. Except that I had this...feeling. It wasn't love at that point, but just a ...draw...an attraction to him...not physical (though he's quite the yummy). But, my eyes would just kind of seek him out. When we were both in the dining hall, or would leave for class around the same time. I could pick him out of a crowd at a good 100 feet just because of the things I saw in him. I could spot his walk, the way his body swayed, almost immediately. He's a runner, so he has a very specific carriage to him. I noticed the most minute details. I remember him helping me study for a biology test one night(how's that for irony). We spent about an hour going over genus and species. I couldn't get it, even though I knew it like the back of my hand. I kept getting distracted by his eyes. He has the most beautiful blue eyes that have all these different colored flecks in them. I can tell you now where each color is in his eyes. And, all the little laugh lines... told me he loved to laugh. So, I would try to make him laugh.
And he tells me he did the same thing. I had short hair then and he was fascinated by the way my hair fell in my eyes. The first time he touched me, he pushed my bangs out of my eyes. He told me that after about 6 minutes of studying, I would get frustrated and start blowing it out of the way. A strange thing to notice, but he was exactly right. I still do that to this day.
Angelvamp wrote:ringswraith wrote:It's not just romantic relationships, either. We know things about our friends that no one else would. Not secrets or the like, but little things like the above. It doesn't even have to be a person; we can easily obsess over things. I know when I get obsessed over a videogame, I read all I can about it.
I'm not sure I agree with you on obsession of this sort being extended to other relationships. You see what you want to see, especially with your friends or family. I had a friend in high school and we hit it off immediately and were friends for years. It took me 2 or 3 months to realize she had a lazy eye. In fact, I don't think I even realized it, she asked me why it didn't bother me. I honestly didn't notice, because her other traits were so much more important to me. But perhaps that just means I am especially unobservant.
Or could it be that because you had that connection, are such good friends, that it just never registered because you didn't see it as a flaw, as anything different? That's the beauty of loving people that way, be they friends or partners. Sometimes, what others see as flaws or different, we just see as a part of them and their beauty to us.
Bella always saw herself as plain, unremarkable at best. But, to Edward, she was the most beautiful creature in the world. What she saw as her flaws; her flat plain brown eyes and pale skin, Edward saw as her most fascinating features; eyes that were so expressive and skin beautiful and untouched by any flaw.