Jazz Girl wrote:It's not a difference in whether they notice or catalogue those things internally, I think. It's a matter of expressing them, and how others react to those expressions. As both of you said, when men start gushing about cars or sports or the other things that our society accepts men to gush over, than it is perfectly fine. But, if a man were to, say at his weekly poker game with his 5 buddies, start rhapsodizing (wonderful word, btw) about the woman he met the weekend before and how her eyes sparkled like sapphires in a river or her hair smelled like strawberries and cinnamon, or her skin felt like warm sunshine, honestly, tell me what the reaction would be? We know it. Every man in that room, down to a one, would tear the mickey out of him, needle and make fun if he were to use such language. And so they don't. In stead, he would walk in talking about the killer blonde with the great rack who drives a souped up GTO. That would get high fives and whistles of approval. What we see and think are often very different from what we say, or what we are allowed to say.
We had this discussion on the Edward forum a few weeks ago. There was a blog posting roughly two months ago by a group called the Normal Mormon Husbands. The post talked all about the reason women related so well to Edward and concluded that it is because he speaks and thinks like a 30-something housewife, because he is written by one. They took excerpts from Midnight Sun, thoughts and phrases from Edward's mouth, and compared them to how "regular modern day man" would think or say the same thing. Essentially, their conclusion was that today's man doesn't and shouldn't talk like that. Neandrathals(speaking about the bloggers, not men in general of course)
But it is perfectly acceptable, celebrated even, how much Bella sees and notices about Edward, how she expresses it. So I don't think it is that one notices more than the other, or catalogues more than the other. It's just that it is far far more acceptable for women to speak that way and about those things than men, for Bella to do so versus Edward.
I must be one to toss back then. It would not occur to me to use the descriptive verbiage you used above, not in the least. As you might guess I do have a wide arsenal of verbiage not to be dump here but I devolve for you...That being said, I agree with the Normal Mormon Husbands about a great many thing they said. Most of it is down right funny to me.
The everyday men that they are talking about are bending to social norms as do women. It's just life. Like it or not that is the way things are. Are there exceptions, of course, is Edward one, maybe...we'll never know...he was written by a 30-something women and not a man. So we will never be able to know what would have been different had he come to life through someone else.