1. What is Bella weeping for during that long night of mourning? Is Jake at the forefront of her mind or is she grieving for the humanity she is giving up? Do you think Edward knows what she is mourning over? What are the “adjustments” Bella has made which allow her to move on in the morning?
Hmm...I honestly hadn't really thought about anything but Jake. However, looking back at the rest of the book, I think she could have been upset about what she did to Jake and losing a life she could have. Bella really, truly is upset about hurting Jacob the way she did and that is a huge cause of her pain. But, now that she realizes what she is giving up to be with Edward I think she could be grieving for that too. I'm sure Edward is aware of what is really on Bella's mind. He knows her inside and out and he still wants her to have the option to live without him. Edward tells her that she hasn't done anything permanent yet, and she can still changer her mind which makes me believe he knows whats really going on in her mind. In the morning Bella has done all the crying she can, and she is thinking a little more clearly. Bella knows what she wants, and is aware of the price she will pay to get it so she decides there is no point in hurting everyone else in the process. She knows she loves Edward more than absolutely anything else in the world and she wont cause him pain by allowing him to see hers.
2. Why does Edward suddenly change his mind in the meadow? Is his about-face a response to what Bella has been saying about their wedding plans? What does it have to do with Bella’s grief the night before? Is his reaction disproportionate?
When Edward realizes Bella agrees to the wedding for everyone else but her, he sees that maybe he has pushed what he wants a little too much. He knows the one thing Bella wants more than anything is to "be with him". The danger is no different than it was all the other times Bella wanted to have sex, so I'm not really sure what made him change his mind on this particular subject. I can't imagine he would put aside his worries about killing her, just so they could be together. I guess maybe it does have something to do with the grief Bella felt the night before. Maybe he is trying to give her the one human experience she did not want to skip without forcing her into the marriage she was dreading, maybe that was his way of easing her grief of what she was giving up.
3. Why does Bella insist on waiting and doing everything as they planned? Does she feel differently about marrying Edward now? Or is she just determined to do things correctly? Which considerations do you think weigh most heavily on her: eg. saying her goodbyes, giving Edward the wedding he dreams of, having a care for his soul, committing herself publicly to him before becoming a vampire....or any others you can think of?
Bella thinks it will be easier if people know she is happy when she can't see them anymore. A wedding to the man she loves would be a good way to show that. Bella also knows that Edward isn't convined he has a soul and on the off chance he does, he does not want to risk it by giving up his virtue before marriage. Waiting to have sex with Edward would keep his virtue in tact. She wants to do things "the right way" to keep everyone happy. Hmm, I think her goodbyes weigh most heavily on her mind and then becoming a vampire, making Edward happy by marrying him at a wedding he wants, her new life as a married vampire, having sex with Edward and I'm sure many other things.
4. Who do you think is actually right about what would be best for them here, Edward or Bella?
In this moment in the meadow I think Bella is right. It is important to her that everyone is happy. It is easier for her to know that her family and friends see her happy before she has to disappear, and a wedding would do that. She would also be able to give Edward everything he has ever dreamed of with a wedding so that helps her decision. I don't think she is thrilled at the idea of a big wedding, but she knows in the long run she'll be happy as well.
5. The last chapter of Eclipse doesn’t leave us with the upbeat feeling you might expect when a book ends with its hero and heroine planning their wedding. Does the faintly elegiac note on which it closes make sense? Did it bother you? Did it make you worry whether Bella had made the right choice?
I think it does make sense, Bella has essentially agreed to give up her life to be with Edward. But, it didn't really bother me because I didn't honestly take it as a sorrowful ending. The way Bella makes telling Charlie sound like a death sentence was a little funny to me. I mean honestly, she is more worried about telling her father she is getting married than about becoming a vampire...whats with that? lol. And, I have to say i though it was really cute that Edward was carrying around her engagment ring waiting to be able to put it back on her finger. So, no I wasn't worried that Bella made the wrong choice.