: I hope that your party will be a distraction for you. I know that we all need something like that right now.Susie and everyone
: I love Kristen and Rob as people and as actors, and that's why I feel really bad for both of them right now. They were a H'wood couple, and, with all the people who wanted to tear them apart from each other, I have to admit that I'm a bit surprised that they lasted this long. And to be honest, I didn't want to believe in the Robsten stuff because I though that she had a good thing with Mike until she broke up with him for whatever reason. So, compared to most of you, I was late to the party.
I don't think that Kristen is a bad person, but she's def. flawed, and I think that she has issues. You're right in that it seems like she was the less well adjusted of the two, and both her and Rob have been acting sort of odd recently, too. They were pretty awkward in my book at Comic Con--they seemed to be really out of it for some reason, then there was Rob acting like he was gonna slap Kristen, and the way that Kristen has been acting and dressing. If Kristen did this because she and Rob were having problems, doesn't make her any less culpable--there were better ways of handling it, obviously--but it would be a good explanation. And I think that's what we all want, an explanation, so the healing can truly begin, not only for Kristen and Rob, and Rupert and Liberty, but us as a fandom. But we have to remember that this is early, and it seems that Kristen and especially Rob aren't prepared to face each other over this yet, and they need time to cool down and get their heads together before they can talk about their future.
Problem is, they don't have much time to tend to this, because of Kristen filming Cali and Rob filming Mission Blacklist, and after that, BD2 promo starts. Our only hope of them salvaging things is if Kristen and Rob get on speaking terms sooner rather than later, and that they can work this out in private, without the media's--or our--interference, and on that front, I feel that the media, and even us, who we all know that we're not saints or gods, but humans, have done enough damage without rubbing it in, and that's something I think that we all can take fault in. We're fans, we care, we wanna help, we wanna offer support, be it to Kristen, Rob, or both. But I do think that it would be better if we let them work it out when they're ready, and that we don't meddle--they have the media to do that.
It also doesn't help that if Kristen and Rob were "normal" people, we wouldn't care so much, but they're movie stars, they're Bella and Edward from the Twilight films, and the lives of those people, rightfully or wrongfully, interest us. But as Lulu said at the HH Facebook page, we can't allow ourselves to get too invested in what's going on right now, especially with so much rumor and speculation floating around. Basically until Kristen and Rob or sources very close to them speak--and not on terms of anonymity, 'cos anonymous sources are crap in my book--I'm regarding everything I read with skepticism.
And as Tonise pointed out in a post to one of my HHFB comments, if Kristen and Rob work things out, it should be because they want to be together for them, not us.
And I have to agree with Caryn on one major point, too. She knows that we all aren't gonna agree right now, but we have to give each other room and respect in regards to that. We're all different, we all like different things and we as people have different views. We can't afford to become a separated fandom, with pro-Kristen, pro-Rob, and pro-Robsten factions. We can't let our feelings on this lead to throwing each other under the bus, because as I've said in regards to Kristen and you folks, if I threw every single person under the bus for every stupid mistake or disagreement they made in my life, I'd probably have no friends at all and I probably wouldn't have a family. So I think that we should not be so invested in this to the point like I got to where I was sick, tired, sad, scared, constantly on the verge of crying, and not eating. As Tonise told me, you can't let that happen to you, because all you'll do right now is hurt yourself worse than you already are, and it's not healthy behavior. I know that it's gonna be hard for everyone, and I'm still experiencing mood swings about this, but we can't let this completely drag us down, and we also can't afford to fight about this, not now, especially as so little reliable info is out there right now.
I'm disappointed and upset at the choice that Kristen made, and I feel bad for her making that choice, and I feel bad for Rob being the victim here. But we need to give them time to figure out their future--be it together or apart--and we can't meddle or fight over it. That's just not healthy, and it'll hurt us as badly as K&R are hurting right now.
Thanks for letting me feel welcomed here, even if my views might not the the same as yours. And I know that I just ran down a deal where I said we should meddle as little as possible in Kristen and Rob's affairs right now, but I'd like to help you ladies our for helping me. Wanna know what's kept me laughing pretty much non stop for the past 18 hours when I think about it? Go to http://www.cinemassacre.com
or that site's You Tube page, and look up the Angry Video Game Nerd video about Arnold Schwarzenegger games. Even if you don't like video games, you'll be laughing you guts out and spraying your beverage out of your nose on some of the stuff James "AVGN" Rolfe says in that video. You should also check out James' "You Know What's BS" videos, especially the new ones, such as the parking lot spike strip video, the bird feeder video, microwave oven video, and the "morning routine" one.
I'll be posting this to the HHFB for those of you who don't visit here often who'd want to read this, and i'll be posting a link to Cinemassacre's page there, too. Hey, it's a case of "what works for you", isn't it? Well, this is helping me out, and I think that we all need to exercise our sense of humor to help us though this time.
I'll be back later.