You know, sometimes I have to wonder how some parents are really so naive about their kids!! I know my kids have faults and I admit them, but it amazes me how some parents can be so oblivious! MM was playing with a boy yesterday who asked me if he could ride Bug's bike. I asked him if he didn't have a bike...he said he DID, but it was put away and he wasn't allowed to get it. So I told him, no, I had just put Bug's bike away, too. (We had just gotten back from the dentist) So the boys decided to go play at the school playground and MM comes back and asks me if the boy can take Bug's bike there. I said no, I had already said no. He leaves...he comes back and says the boy promised he'll bring it back. I said no AGAIN and MM was frustrated, but left again...then I heard him start to come back and then he left again. So then the boy's mom comes to the door looking for him because it was time to eat, so she offered to send MM home, too. So he came home and came through the back gate, which I leave open for him so I don't have to get up and run back and forth to the front door to let him in every time he needs a bathroom or wants to ask a question. After a while I thought I heard something and didn't know if it was at the neighbor's house or not. So I went to go check and MM had left the gate open. I went to go close it...and there was a bike missing. Now, given that this kid asked several times about the bikes, and it happened to be the bike without training wheels that MM can't even ride yet, I figured I knew who had the bike. So I asked MM if they had taken a bike. He says yes, the boy took one and I asked why it wasn't brought back and he said the other boy was supposed to bring it back. So I scolded him for taking a bike when I told him not to and he said he TOLD the boy no, but he didn't listen. We go to the school and thank goodness it was still there, so we brought it home. I talked to the mom today and she says if her son was supposed to bring a bike home, he would have told her, and she hadn't heard anything, so she didn't think he had done it. So I ask the boy what happened and he says he doesn't know, he didn't take it, MM must have done it himself, but he's looking at the ground, fidgeting and very clearly exhibiting behavior that is indicative of deception. I tell him MM can't even ride that bike...the boy's mom says "Well, he could have walked it there!" I said "Yes, he could have...but why WOULD he when he can't ride it?" "Well," she says, "Perhaps one of the other kids at the playground took it there. There were lots of kids there." "Yes," I said, "But they would have to know where we lived and that the gate was open, etc." and the boy starts blaming ANOTHER boy, saying HE knows where we live, so he took it. MM is getting frustrated, saying the boy is lying, and trying to remind him of things he said, etc, and the boy just keeps saying he didn't do it. So I said someone must be lying and the mother agrees, but says she believes her son because he doesn't lie. Now, I know my son has a LOT of faults, but lying has never been one of them. If I ask him if he did something, he's always told the truth, even when he would get in trouble. And I told him that if he lied and I found out about it, he'd be in WAY more trouble, so now was the time to fess up if he did it...both boys still insisted the other was lying. After about 15 minutes, I gave up and told MM that if something like that happened again, he was to come and get me immediately and I would take care of it. Later on, when I took the kids back to school, I ran into the mom who said she had talked to her son and he admitted to taking the bike, but he said he didn't know he wasn't supposed to....and she believed him. Lady...the kid just spent 15 minutes LYING to you and to me and blaming every other kid he could think of for something HE did...and now you believe that he didn't know he wasn't supposed to take it, despite my telling you that they asked THREE times and were denied every time? And why in the world did he lie if he honestly didn't know he had done something wrong? If he thought it was ok, why did he lie about taking it? I wasn't accusatory at all when I asked about it, just asked him how the bike ended up at the school, who got it out and took it there and rather than saying he did because he thought it was ok, he lied and said he didn't take it. I am absolutely appalled that the mother believed that story after he JUST admitted to her he had lied that whole time. But her son doesn't lie, according to her...makes me wonder how much he's gotten away with before now! Really, you have to be super blind not to see through all that. The body language, the latching on to every excuse his mother threw out there, the fact that HE was the one asking to use the bikes...all the evidence pointed to him...and then when he ADMITS he lied...and you believe the next thing out of his mouth. Wow. Is it just me or is that INSANE?
We were busy all weekend helping at my in-laws' for my MIL's b-day. Fun, but exhausting and I didn't get to be on the computer at all really in those 2 days. That's crappy because I'm trying to get through my friend's book one more time to catch anything I didn't catch the first time I read it, but hopefully now that I'm home, I'll get it finished tomorrow. Glad to be home!
Lynne, how frustrating! I bet it feels like a waste of time! Was this for that fight or whatever it was you saw last year? I remember you saying you had witnessed something and had given a statement to police. At least the guy realized he couldn't talk his way out of it. As you say, probably better for everyone, but really crappy that you had to go down there and waste your time when you had so much other stuff to do!
How is your mother feeling? Is she able to get around now?
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