The Dating Thread--take 2

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WOW me tooooo...so weird!!! ahh sorry I'm chat posting don't yell at me...
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Holden's Update:
Hey everyone. I haven't been online in quite some time. I'm very sad at the moment, and I'm going to explain why, so here we go, this is going to be long, so if you have patience to read this, thank you.

So everyone here should know that I like my emo friend a lot, and that I really like her. Let's call her "E" for the purposes of this update. So before I had told you guys that I just wanted to be friends with E, and that I was just going to ignore my feelings for her. Well that didn't really work, because my feelings just got more powerful for her, and made me like her even more. So things got more complicated. To add to that, it was obvious to everyone who was around me and her, about how much I like her. My one friend brought his girlfriend over one time to stage crew, and she just randomly was like to me "So how long have you been in love with E?" I just blushed and said nothing.

Here is where things get worse. As you all know, E has a boyfriend. Well that complicates things, but one day E had to leave early, so I just chatted with one of her friends. Her friend was like "So about you and E?" right after E left. So we talked about things, and she told me that she hates E's boyfriend and that she wants her to breakup with him and date me. So we talked and E's friend talked about how she thinks that E likes me. And so that was nice for me to hear, and I was really happy. She was like just wait until E breaks up with her boyfriend and then she will date you. I shouldn't listen to people.

Today I got really sad and while I was texting E I was told her I was frustrated. She kept asking me why, and I was like do you have any idea what me and your friend have been talking about? And so she was like yea, and she thought I just had a "little crush" on her. Well I really like her, so it's not like that. Well she made it quite clear that she doesn't like me and that she sees me only as a friend. I should have listened to her, because one time she did say that her friend likes to make things up. Regardless, it's not like this wouldn't have happened sooner or later.

So E doesn't like me, she just sees me as a "really good friend" and I'm heart broken and very sad. I thought that I wouldn't like anyone again after Eva, and guess what I do end up liking someone, liking them alot again, and I just get rejected and heart broken again. I spent around two and a half hours crying off and on today. I was really sad. So E says that she feels really bad for me, and that she's really sorry this all happened. She said she values me as a friend (and I of course value her as a friend), so we are going to try and forget this ever happened and try our best to be like we were and to just be really good friends with her. She said in her eyes "nothing has changed". So we are going to try and not be awkward with each other and are going to try our best to be friends. I think that we will be able to do it, but it's going to be more painful for me I think. I'm just going to have to try and not think about it.

So now, in my feelings I feel just horrible. I feel worthless, stupid, ugly, and a whole bunch of other things. I must be one of the most unappealing guys in the world, or at least that's how things seem. E was perfect for me, and I'm so sad that things had to turn up like this. I think that I'm just going to try and forget about dating for good. There's really no point. But the problem is I find someone when I'm not even worrying about dating, that's what happened with E, that was all random, and it turned about poorly. So I need to just try and watch my back and stay away from girls I guess. I feel like I deserve this though, so at least I'm being punished properly. Thanks guys for reading all that. I just want to hear some nice words from everyone.
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Holden You are most definaely not worthless, stupid, ugly, and a whole bunch of other things!!! :x (Hello, I'm Genny by the way!) Just becuase one girl has decided she'd rather be friends doesn't mean there isn't anyone else out there! Her feelings could change anyway! If you are as perfect for each other as you say you are then she'll see that. It's okay to cry though and get it off your chest. Jut try and be positive and look at all the good things in your life. And you're not worthless so dont ever EVER think that!

Christine Hello! :D I highly doubt you'll eat up what I have to say! :lol: I'm sorry you're stuck in your house! May I ask why? I can completely sympathise with you about the whole "mother" situation as well! I'm at my dad's this weekend so Im getting a 72 hour break! :lol: And I guess laughing at what people say is funny. Although annoying! Thanks again! :lol:

Twilight813 That's so romantic! It seems like you and Greg were destined to be together! I'm glad everything worked out! :D That was such a nice story!

edward x lover Yes the questions answered my questions! :D I do sincerly hope it all works out. Really I do. At least you have Greg! :D

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Wolf-Girl90 wrote:Holden You are most definaely not worthless, stupid, ugly, and a whole bunch of other things!!! :x (Hello, I'm Genny by the way!) Just becuase one girl has decided she'd rather be friends doesn't mean there isn't anyone else out there! Her feelings could change anyway! If you are as perfect for each other as you say you are then she'll see that. It's okay to cry though and get it off your chest. Jut try and be positive and look at all the good things in your life. And you're not worthless so dont ever EVER think that!
I agree!! Holden, how can you even think that. you are a wonderful person!!!


my update

so things are.... odd right now. i am fighting with my bestfriend, and so he is not talking to me, and i am having serious invisibility issues. i swear if i wasnt around no one would care. or they would only care if they needed help with something.

on the plus side, i have things all sorted out with D. we are back to being close friends again. we ditched clinic after school on thursday t go into town, and he bought me a McDonalds and we talked and sorted things out. so at leats thats one goo thing at the moment.
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Holden...STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT. NO ONE wants you to put yourself down like that. Seriously. You're a good person, but YOU are holding yourself back...not these stupid girls who put you down. You decide to STAY down.
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Holden just listen to us. You are a really nice guy!! And most of us only know you online and we see that. You are not stupid ugly or any of those things you said. Cheer up there is someone for everyone out there and just because you don't find her in high school it doesn't mean that she isn't out there. Don't kick yourself while you're down just keep your head up high and put yourself out there. A lot of girls would kill for a sweet guy like you.

Landiana I'm sorry you are fighting with your best friend. But it usually works out with best friends so I wouldn't worry about it.

I don't really have an update of than what I said before...
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PSUGAR:
Haha well I'm sure you'll have fun at your Superbowl party... Just make sure to wear ear plugs! ;]

GOYMER:
Ahh, okay, I guess if that's what you're going to do, I understand. (I'm SO like you, texting is SO much easier...) So how did that go? Fill us in! :]

LILY:
Awww, that's so sweet! You and your man sound like a really great match! Your story is definitely one you could tell your future kids. ;] Haha. :]

LEE:
Glad you caught your own chat posting. ;]

HOLDEN:
Okay, like everyone else has said: STOP. Seriously. I know it feels like life sucks right now. She rejected you and you feel like it's your fault. IT'S NOT. First of all, she has a BOYFRIEND. She likes him. It would be surprising if she actually liked you, too, because not many people like someone while they're dating someone else. (Disregard Andy as an example of that...) And just because she doesn't like you doesn't mean that there's anything WRONG with you. I know that's how it feels, but you've got to know, NOTHING is wrong with you! You're a great guy, really, a GREAT guy, and she'd be lucky to have you! But even when guys are as amazing as you, some girls just don't like them. From personal experience, I'll tell you that my friend Tim is pretty much perfect in every way: sweet, cute, smart, funny. But no matter how much I WANT to like him, I can't. I don't know why, I just don't. And it's not because he's not good enough by any means. E just doesn't feel that way about you and it's not your fault so you can't change it. And giving up on relationships altogether is a very PESSIMISTIC thing to do! Don't do it! I'm not saying go find another girl to like or anything, but if a girl that you like happens to come your way, take advantage of the opportunity! You never know what great things you might miss out on if you "give up." So Holden, if you want to talk about this anymore, you know where to find me. CHEER UP, BUTTERCUP! :]

GENNY:
I'm stuck in my house because we had this HUGE ice storm, like my yard is covered in six inches of ice. It's ridiculous. I only had school on Monday last week because of it, and the mayor keeps telling us to stay inside. I'm such a faithful citizen... Haha. :]

LANDIANA:
I'm sorry you're fighting with your friend. :[ That always sucks. I hope you can work things out though! And I know what you mean about the invisibility thing... But know that you're not invisible! Not here, at least. We love you! :] And I'm glad things are going well with D again! Sounds like you two had a nice afternoon. :]

Update:
I'm STILL not in a good mood. I have no idea why. Do you ever feel like you're not good enough? That's the kind of feeling I'm having right now and I have no idea why...
As for Andy, well, I haven't really talked to him the past few days. It's sort of killing me, actually. He talked to me for about five minutes yesterday, but he didn't really have anything to say. I was trying to figure out why and I THINK it's because Cara's here this weekend. (I Facebook stalk. ;] ) So yeah, maybe he's with her and that's why he's not talking to me. Or maybe he just has better things to do. I don't know, I told him I wasn't in a good mood yesterday and normally he's like, "What can I do to help?" But he just kind of ignored it. Whatever.
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Holden- Hi im Lily i am new to the thread here but I read your post several pages back. Dont ever say you are worthless because a girl you like doesnt like you back. She obviously doesnt see how great you really are, and honestly most girls are like that. And speaking from personal experience most girls always go for the bad guy. there has been a scientific study that girls are attracted to the bad guys and they wont realize that the bad guy isnt good for them until something happens. Nice guys always finish last. But here is the thing, dont set yourself up for failure. Just because she doesnt like you back doesnt mean that deep inside her mind she isnt thinking "now i know he likes me, if anything happens he would be great to date". So just keep your head up and just go on. There are so many girls out there that would love to be with you. And I dont know how old you are but it seems that your young enough that you have a while to find someone who will love you as much as you love them. It took me 6 years to find the love of my life. And really once you stop looking, they find you. i wasnt looking for someone at the time i met my boyfriend and we have been together over 3 years now and close to getting engaged! Things happen for a reason, and "E" will realize one day that she passed up someone really special!
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lovemesomecullensss wrote:GOYMER:
Ahh, okay, I guess if that's what you're going to do, I understand. (I'm SO like you, texting is SO much easier...) So how did that go? Fill us in! :]
In a word: SUCCESS!! :D

Alright, we're only hanging out in the park, but it's a start right? And hell, it's the nearest thing to a date I've EVER had, so I'll take what I can get :lol:
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Ugh. I'm sorry I haven't been able to post since friday.

Lily-
Welcome to the thread. I'm Lena. =]
Moving on... I think that your man, Greg, sounds fantastic!
And now the most important part. You basically earned yourself a lifetime of cool points by having Henry Cavill pictures on your sig and avi. =D
Holden-
I think you take these things way to close to heart. Everyone in life gets rejected. Even players get rejected. That doesn't mean that you aren't likable-- it just means they are too much of a$$holes to look beyond anything. On that note, my best guyfriend keeps telling me to stop trying to plan out my future with everyguy I meet and stop thinking to myself about who they could be in my life and how "ooh I think we could potentially date." and etc. We have to just let it go with the flow and just not think and take things too seriously. What's the point of life if you can't enjoy it?

Christine-
Tomorrow we have school.. It is monday right? hahaha. It should get better. Why don't you text any of your boys? Cara's there, huh? Drive to Andy's house and do a drive-by! hahaha! (kidding). I think you should text him anyway.. just to make him think about you while she's there. It wouldbe so much simpler if she just breaks up with him.

V-
I feel ya, sistahhh. I'm also kinda feelin that that yoga isn't helping you out much lately in the mental tranquility kind of way. Life is too hectic. hahaha. Still, I think you should talk more to John. Do you have his number or anything?
(by the way. I would NEVER go out with Druggie. Don't worry! lol)

wolfgirl-
Hi. Are you new to this thread? I'm sorry if you are not (please ignore) that would be mad akward. But I also did not get your name. I'm Lena.



moiiiiiii-
So Friday I had no school so basically it was a bore.
Saturday morning I suffered embarassing moments twice in the matter of half an hour. My house is for sale so we were expecting these people to come by and see it around 10am. But I still had time so I showered before and washed my hair. I had literally got out of the shower and my sister called me saying that the people were coming up the street (she had just left and I was homealone), so I'm like "crap. I'm in the nude! What do i do?" Throw my hair up in an towel, wrap myself in another one, and "cover" myself with a "does-that-really-count-as-a-robe-its-so-tiny?" Irun downstairs and open the door and then to get out of their way I go to my garage and open the door so that my dog didn't keep crying. So I'm standing there ooutside in 2degree weather with wethair, and a towel totally naked underneath. Gah.

After they left i went to my room but the doorbell rang yet again so i had to rush down and do the same thing! The first couple was totally not even announced that they were going and real early for the other people who said when they were going. So yeah... story of my life.

Another funny story was that my best friends, and a couple of their friends had this massive girls "slumberparty' where we acted like we were in middleschool again. We got a little carried away and called hookers. SO.MUCH.FUN. Please look up "escorts" in the yellowpages one day and prank call them.(especially if they are asian) you will enjoy the results, even though we were this close *holds up fingers really close to each other* to buying 1,200$ worth of prostitutes. They claimed they were "gorgeous and classy" hahaha.
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