twilight1909 wrote:holdingoutforjacob wrote:that just gave me a lightbulb moment. i have often accused edward of being a control freak about bella. but now that i think about it, he's a control freak about bella's safety, not her person. i think that's an important difference. i think it lends some insight into the situation at the beginning of eclipse - in his eyes, to have bella be with jacob would be to give over his control over her safety, just as it would be to have sex with her. that's why he reacted so irrationally and wrongly.
I'm really glad that you see it that way now. That's always how I've interpreted Edward's behavior -- it's not about controlling Bella, it's about protecting her from harm (whether he causes it or not).
i've always seen it that way. i've always understood that it was always about bella's safety and not about controlling bella. it's just that, to me, acting in such an out-of-control, disrespectful, and controlling manner is NOT ok under any circumstances.