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Re: Boys are Confusing

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To "Hazed": I say, just act like friends for now. Maybe ease back into the whole thing and see if things are like they were at the end of last year. If it is... maybe it's time for a talk with Nick.


Here's my dealy: (if a guy could respond to this, i would much appreciate it)

This might be more for the dating thread, but here goes:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months. I am the one who calls and makes plans 99% of the time. He NEVER does; he does, however, always go along with anything I suggest and will talk with me for hours and I can tell when we are together that he does enjoy it and really wants to be there. SO WHY AM I THE ONE DOING ALL THE WORK?! Is this a typical guy thing?
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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^ Definetly typical guy. You don't have anything to worry about. :]

moved to dating thread...its read more.
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im not sure if i should post this here but here goes...ok so this guy that i sorta liked (but i hadnt talked to him in a long time,even tho we go to the same school) starts talking to me towards the last 3 weeks of school. he would go out of his way just to tell me hi and to wave. he like yelled it in the cafateria, and in the band hall and in every class we had together. then one day he hugged me. but instead of it being just a one armed hug,he hugged me from behind and put his hands on my waist,which didnt leave no space between us at all. this kind of hug kept happening like everday almost. and i started to wonder wether a guy friend should hug a grl friend like that or if it meant that he liked me.in the summer my friend and his friend would put us on 3 way so we could talk and he kept getting mad cuz i never txt him but i txt his brother. now we are starting the new school year and he hasnt even said hi to me at the least. he will look at me and then thats it. ugh! im confused. if anyone could help me i would appreciate it. you could pm me or just post it here.
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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So, I had a guy friend. A really, really good guy friend. My best guy friend.

Can you already see where this is going?

For a while, it was like we were totally into each other. He was always like, "I love you, Gracie!!" and waiting for me after class and helping me wash dishes when he came over. And he even said he liked me way more than a friend. And then he said he wanted to have that kind of relationship with me, but he didn't want to officially date me because he didn't want his ex-girlfriend to start b****ing on me like she did whenever he got a new girlfriend.

So I was like, why not? Because as my best guy friend, I totally trusted him.

A week later, he slept with one of his other female friends and didn't even bother hiding it from me. I confronted him about it and this is what he said: Why are you mad? It's not like we were officially dating or anything.

Yeah, but only because you said you didn't want you ex to come after me, you moron.

I'm not asking for help because I really have no intention of even thinking about taking him back (obviously). I'm just amazed at the fact that he did that. We're not even friends anymore after that. Why did he have to ruin everything we had because of some skank?
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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jaspercookie wrote:A week later, he slept with one of his other female friends and didn't even bother hiding it from me. I confronted him about it and this is what he said: Why are you mad? It's not like we were officially dating or anything.
Wow! I am sorry to hear about that. Some guys just don't 'get it'. Anyway, I am really glad that you aren't going to 'take him back'. You deserve better. :)
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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^ I, too, am sorry about that! What a dissapointment! Sometimes people can just really let you down. :[

I wish I could find a guy who I could trust and not find out later that my trust had been misplaced. It's hard to really know a person. But it's even worse when you know a guy and can see who he is all along, but are too blinded by your own infatuation to realize it. *referring to myself* XD Ahh.
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Psychicpoptarts wrote:
jaspercookie wrote:A week later, he slept with one of his other female friends and didn't even bother hiding it from me. I confronted him about it and this is what he said: Why are you mad? It's not like we were officially dating or anything.
Sounds like a jerk. I know some guys can just have sex without there being any type of connection, but he should've thought of your feelings. Besides, you don't want to be with a guy who doesn't mind 'spreading the love' with just anyone.
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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StupidxLamb wrote:Guys aren't confusing...they are confused. I totally understand them, it's they who don't understand themselves or US. Which, in the end, makes them act stupidly.

My boyfriend has a lot of female friends. And he feels the need to talk about them with me. Okay. I have guy friends that I sometimes mention, but he's just kind of insensitive! He does things with girls that, if he did them with me, they would be considered a date (he does not treat them the way he treats me, because I obviously get special treatment, but still). Like, he'll go out to eat with a couple of girls. Or he'll go kayaking with just one girl.

And then he has no respect for authority. I'm trying to determine how much of that I can excuse and brush off as simply his male instincts and desire for adventure, and how much I have to blame on immaturity.
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Sorry. I know not all boys are stupid. Haha.
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jaspercookie wrote: I'm not asking for help because I really have no intention of even thinking about taking him back (obviously). I'm just amazed at the fact that he did that. We're not even friends anymore after that. Why did he have to ruin everything we had because of some skank?
Because let's keep this PG shall we? > girl's feelings. Apparently. Sucks, but it's usually true.
Not to stereotype. I know, I know. There are good guys...somewhere.
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Re: Boys are Confusing

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here's my confusing situation:
i have two people i want to be with. one more than the other. the first person i want to be with, steve, is amazing. we have the same favorite band, we like the same things, he's amazingly beautiful, he's funny. and he's REALLY nice. but sadly for me, he was talking to a girl before we got to know each other and then they started dating. they've broken up a total of two times now, and each time i get the most hope. he tells me he likes me and everything but that he cant hurt his girlfriend when she's hurt him a bunch of times. i hate it. i like him so much. he's different from most of the guys i talk to. =/ i went to a party the other night and it was NO good. he was there with his girlfriend. that hug goodbye was the worst one yetttt. =[ and my last kiss was with him, a night before he gave his gf another chance. AAAAND the second guy, yeah he's my ex-boyfriend, cody. he's no good to tell you guys the truth. he's been in jail for drugs and other dumb things and he just got out a little bit ago. i fell in love with him five years ago and i never got over him. we were perfect the first time, bad the second time, and worse the third time we dated. he hurts me, but i LOVE him and i know he loves me. it's so hard. i see hiim everyday. and when things with me and steve screw up, i go straight back to cody.

see, confusing....i can't get no help. :|
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