Carrisa wrote:So, she got back with him today. I fail to follow how this happened. For one, she loves him and yet all she can do is cuss him out, even in front of his face. This relationship is like one I've never seen before. Even though I have zero knowledge on relationships, that just doesn't seem healthy. Though she does seem to feel the need to cuss her friend out too. I wonder what causes her to be that way?
Well, it's unfortunate, but that kind of "relationship" is increasingly common--it's the same kind my abovestairs neighbors have. Some of their 2 A.M. arguments have rattled walls, and warranted a couple calls to the police. And for claiming no knowledge of relationships, you've pinpointed the problem exactly: it's not
healthy. Whatever happened to "Love is kind, love is patient," etc.? Now, maybe my background's a little messed-up, but my mother always told me if you can't respect your other half--and show that respect--then you have no business being with them. The same goes for them towards you. Both of my sisters made the mistake of ignoring that little piece of advice.
They are both now recovering from abusive relationships; one psychological and emotional, one physical, verbal, and
Now, I'm not accusing her of abuse by any stretch; I'm just saying that if she can't respect him, then whatever her words to your face (or others), there is no real love there at all. I sincerely hope she can figure that out soon, or as she gets older, the world of heartache is going to become increasingly familiar...and that's a bad place to be.