As for the meltdown, I also disagree that it's specifically a female thing. I agree with your sentiment that men are "supposed to" deal with their issues and get on with it- it's kind of how society programs men to behave. However, Romeo went to extremes when he saw Juliet and thought she was dead. Would anyone call Romeo feminine in that regard? I doubt it. Edward did the same thing.
Jazz Girl wrote:Let me start my post by saying that it is very hard for me to say that this characteristic is masculine vs feminine. I struggle with it because I think that it can be sometime degrading in the way that we do it. That's probably why that "article" snapped my teeth together so hard in the first place. But, it is at the root of who we are as a society, so I completely accept it and engage in it every day. I am probably just a little harder on myself about it than most of you. That being said...
Yes! Yes! Yes! Thank you all. I think everyone of you hit the nail on the head, as it were in that the version of a "normal" (thanks Rings- I hate that word as well) male is more akin to a cave troll than a man. As I was reading their *cough* article, I found myself cursing (A LOT!) and pointing out two facts repeatedly. 1) Edward is a gentleman's gentleman and a man's man. And it is absolutely possible to be both. 2) Edward was raised in a tVERY different time, and it was a much more genteel and civil time at that. But, that did not excuse him from the expectations of his gender. It was just a time when men were so much more open to being both a man and a gentelman.
I cannot state it any better than Ringswraith did: "Everything about Edward practically screams manhood- hunter, protector, provider." In my mind, Edward embodies strength (both physical AND emotional), integrity, courage and honor. And those are the qualities by which I measure a man. I absolutely despise that there is such a negative connotation towards men who make any attempt to understand and express their emotions. I am raising two sons, and to be perfectly honest, it is a b!tch of a thing to do. It is so hard when they get constant mixed messages. Everyday, the world tells them to be hard and tough and, let's admit it, downright disrespectful and mean at times. And then they come home and I try to tell them that it is okay to feel what you feel, that understanding and expressing your feelings is a good thing, a healthy thing, and being nice and accepting of people is a good thing to do. And the next day, the go back to school and are called "a girl" because they fall and get hurt or someone says something horrible and they stick up for the other child. I tell my oldest son in particular that, other than his father and grandfathers, the best roll model I can offer him is Edward Anthony Masen Cullen.
As for why I think we women are attracted to him, well I can only speak for myself. But, this is where, and it seriously pains me to admit this, but the authors actually have a point, from a certain point of view. If, in their estimation, having no fear of one's emotions or expressing those emotions is a feminine characteristic; allowing one's self to live completely for another person is a feminine trait, and willingness to always be the absolute best person that you can be is a female thing, than, yeah, I guess in that case, I absolutely love Edward Cullen for being the woman of my dreams. My advice to the Normal Mormon Husbands is to pay a little bit more attention to who Edward is, what he does and how he conducts himself. It is very clear that you all at least (and a good number of other men out there as well) should take a page, no several chapters, no even better the whole of Edward's book and learn a new definition of what a man is. There is a reason why we say on a regular basis that Edward Cullen ruined it for mortal men. It's because he reminded us of what a "real" man is supposed to be.
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