holdingoutforjacob wrote:I think I maybe agree with you JG. I'm not entirely sure...
I think that him leaving was the most harmful action he took, but the most well-intentioned. Plus, I truly believed that he really thought about it, and he really couldn't see any other way out of the situation. I think that makes all the difference. I am willing to forgive him for that and sort of forget that it ever happened.
What we were speaking of was the truck issue and some of the control issues in Eclipse. I think that the fact that no harm was done, along with his intentions, makes them forgivable. However, the fact that I really don't think he tried to work it out at all, or really thought it through makes it stick in my mind, and therefor also unforgettable.
I think, though, that I don't really want to discuss it. Because we will never agree. I see it as a deeper issue than you do. It brings up questions in my mind. Why did he think he had any right to control anyone that way? What makes him think he's so right about everything? Why doesn't he think he has to respect the decisions of his life partner, etc. Those are all rhetorical, by the way.
Edward didn't control Bella, if he did she would not have become a vampire. As for respecting her decisions he I refuse to damn you to an eternity of night and thats the end of it. If you go back to Twilight chapter 24 and read it again, you might get a different picture on Bella's and Edward's relationship and his controlling of her and everything. Edward gave into Bella everything that she asked for, so how can that be controling? She wanted to becoma a vampire; Edward didn't, She wanted to see Jacob, Edward didn't but she did, , She wanted Renesmee even though it might have killed her, Edward didn't want anything that could kill her in her, but she did and when Edward heard Renesmee he realized it was right but he still could have lost Bella. So Edward controlling on matters of importance, Bella had her way not Edward.