No, I agree with you about the way your husband, and your love grew, that is the way most love grows. But I do believe it can be different, and is, when you find your soul mate. Most people do not and they live happy fulfilled lives, but if you met your soul mate, and knew how intense and strong that feeling it is, then it would be so much harder for you to settle on just real love. I am serious about this, and do not mean to demean any love, but the soul mate is something on a different level if you are getting what I am trying to say. This is why Bella could never be completely happy with Jacob, part of her would not belong to Jacob. If Bella hadn't met Edward, and if they did fall in love and I do find that a stretch, then she would not have that type of love to compare with. This is also why I believe there is only one true soul mate. If you never find it, then you fall in love like everyone, and you are happy, and its not less meaningful its just different. I don't believe that Bella was even that close to Jacob to think about planning a future with him anyway. She was oposed to marrying Edward, and so what makes anyone think that she would be with Jacob. I don't think so. I see her going to college, and making something of herself, and that doesn't leap to Jacob being her mate if Edward wasn't there or didn't come back.