In my mind there is a difference between Edward feeling outraged that his expected time with Bella might be cut short and him criticizing Bella for her clumsiness -- which was beyond her control and which [in MS] amused him.
While trying to think of positive feminine role models in the movies I've seen in the last couple of years, I thought of I Am Number Four. Dianna Agron played the protagonist's girlfriend, Sarah. She was portrayed as pretty, smart, talented, sensitive, and modestly dressed. What's not to like? On the other hand, Number 6 (Teresa Palmer) was portrayed as striking in her looks, better at surviving and fighting than Number 4, slightly sarcastic, edgy, and definitely hardened in attitude. Which character would most young girls want to emulate?
I also thought of The Sorcerer's Apprentice. Teresa Palmer played the girlfriend, Becky, in this movie and she was portrayed much as Sarah in I Am Number Four: kind, talented, brave, there for her man. In this movie, no feminine teen or YA role overshadowed her.
So some Hollywood roles are positive, but they are few and far between and often overshadowed by edgier characters in the fillm. I like both those films, and in my mind Teresa Palmer did a great job portraying both Number 6 and Becky.
"Where there is great love, there are always miracles."