Tornado wrote:Yes, when it's what we want, we tend to see everything as rosy, and the alternatives as the things that will result in the most misery.
And I think that was always such a point of contention for me. All of Jacob's disapproval, manipulations, guilt-trips, hurtfulness and everything else was based on the fact that he didn't agree with Bella's choice. Say what you like about his drive to, quote-unquote, save her life. That's never a justification that I totally accepted because, regardless of one's feelings about vampire life, the bottom line is she wasn't losing her life. She was transitioning to a life with which Jacob did not agree. He didn't like what she wanted to become and it didn't fit with what he wanted. So, he decided that he wasn't going to let it happen. He could never understand why Bella made the choice she did, never tried to understand. So, he dismissed it and did everything he could to prevent it, despite every protest by Bella. It frustrates me to no end when people blame Edward, constantly degrade him for making a unilateral decision to leave in New Moon, when his goal was to save Bella's life. But, somehow, Jacob's actions are excuseable for exactly the same reason?