Hi. I'm new here. I've been reading posts and had a lot of opinions and questions. I've only recently discovered the Twilight Saga. I'm a 48 year old single woman, and my sister bought me the first 2 books at a yard sale for less than a dollar. After reading them, I immediately had to go out and buy the other 2 book, all 3 movies, soundtracks, and lots of other stuff. I read the books (all 4) in one week. Watched the movies, then started over with the first book. The second time I read the books I took more time and thought more about the characters, the situations, the conversations, etc. Then I found Midnight Sun on SM's website and really loved that. I understood Edward a lot more after that.
Anyway...on to my opinions.
I think that one reason Bella didn't call Jacob out on the way he acted was her guilty feelings. She always felt responsible for those around her. She felt guilty for the pain, rage, depression, bitterness that he felt. Much of his sarcasm and anger came, not only from the pain of rejection by Bella, but the fact that he held the Cullens responsible for his transformation into the wolf. As the story progressed he came to terms with his being a werewolf, even liked certain aspects of it, but in the beginning he was very resentful of the changes it forced him to make in his life. So not only was he suffering over his "first love" and all the pain that comes with that, he was suffering with the fact that his whole life had changed...all because of the Cullens. Or so he thought. Another reason is that Bella realized he was young, immature, this was his first love, and she knew that he was not emotionally prepared to handle so much. Edward is much more mature, having lived for so long, and having had a century to deal with his fate and future. All of this was forced on Jacob all at once, in a very short period of time, with little time or help to come to terms with it. All 4 books, from Bella arriving at school the first day day until the time she became a vampire, all of this occurred within a 1 1/2 to 2 year period. So much pain, hurt, horror, love, change, etc for ALL of them to deal with in such a short time.
Another thought that I had was about the imprinting. After Bella learns of the imprinting Jacob tells her that he believes it was always meant for him to be a part of her life...because of Renesmee. He thought he was in love with Bella, and she had an almost uncontrollable urge to have him near her, even throughout the pregnancy. But he tells Bella that he believes it was Renesmee that he was drawn to, not to Bella. Even though he couldn't possibly know it at the time. So maybe "fate" or "destiny" or whatever you want to call it, attracted him and Bella to each other so that he would be there for Renesmee.
Also, someone mentioned that it would be hard for Jacob and Renesmee when she begins to mature, because Edward would be able to read their thoughts. Any passionate feelings or thoughts they have for each other. But wouldn't that be true no matter who Renesmee is with? And obviously, Edward is reading Jacob's thoughts regarding Renesmee even now. If those thoughts were anything more than pure, protective, etc....wouldnt Edward put him through a wall? I don't believe that Jacob has any type of "pedophile" feelings toward Renesmee. Edward would not stand for that. Edward and Bella also realize that not only Jacob, but the whole wolf pack, will always protect Renesmee. The Volturi aren't going to let it go, I'm sure they will be back someday.
And lastly, someone stated that it wasn't fair that Bella got "everything" without having to give up anything. She didn't even know she wanted to be a mother until she felt her "little nudger". Then she realized that it was something worth risking everything for, a child with the man she loved. Something she had been told she couldn't have, but was willing to give up for him. She was willing to give up everything for her love...and personally I think it's wonderful that she didn't HAVE to give it up in the end. It was enough that she was willing to. She proved her love, devotion, strength, etc just by giving all she had. How wonderful that she was blessed for her willingness to sacrifice all, by not having to after all.
I hadn't thought of Renesmee as a gift to Edward until I read it here, but it is so true. He thought of himself as a monster, as someone selfish for loving Bella, doomed and beyond redemption for what he was and certainly if he took Bella's soul. Having Renesmee showed him that redemption is not out of his reach. If it was how would he be so blessed as to create a child out of pure love with Bella?
Anyway, I loved these books and really enjoy reading the other opinions here. I hope mine make sense to someone. LOL