*Wanderer* wrote:Ellie Ibis wrote:I used to love the idea of imprinting. Of course, when I first read the book I had just gotten out of a relationship, and I was completely and utterly in love with the idea of someone having such unconditional love. There's such certainty in imprinting, and that is definitely attractive.
Now I don't see it that way. I dislike the lack of free will, the lack of choice in the matter of imprinting. To me it would not be true love, it would be more like a curse, especially if you were a werewolf in an already established relationship, like Leah and Sam were. When you turn into a werewolf and you haven't imprinted, but you're in love with someone... how can do that? How can you look that person in the eye and tell them you love them when you know tomorrow could come, you could walk down the street, and then be essentially a slave to your feelings and forced to leave that person for another, whom you barely know?
The magic in love is the magic of choice, of the randomness and the luck it takes in finding someone you can get along with, you can spend the rest of your life with. The certainty of imprinting removes all that, it deludes that. It take away any natural, safe, new and gentle attraction, it takes away the work and the feelings you have when you know the relationship you're nurturing it flourishing, and forces it on you before you even know the person you're dedicating your life for.
I totally see your point. It does sort of take away the magic of love... you don't get that spontaneous (for lack of a better word) feeling of a new love.
Great ideas! I'm glad you posted this because I would've been totally frustrated with myself trying to put how I feel into words.
Haha. Thanks. I only wish I could write something as nice for my classes. Personal opinions on the novels I read? No problem, but a thesis on the Effects of Living in a Technology-Based Society, I can't seem to get past "Uh, IT MAKES PEOPLE DUMBER." (okay, that was an exaggeration.)
As for your question concerning as to whether or not the person imprinted on imprints back: I believe the answer it no. It mentioned is -some- Twilight novel that "it's hard to resist that level of devotion" (in terms of the person being imprinted on not wanting to be with the imprinter), implying they still have free will to refuse to accept the relationship.