The Dating Thread

The Dating Thread

Postby Pel » Sun Aug 17, 2008 6:02 pm

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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby Ruby » Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:53 pm

This is going to be a long story, so just bear with me.

So, I started dating this boy (we'll call him chris) in october of last year. This part of the story isn't really important, so I'll just skip ahead a few months. He broke up with me in January for what appeared to be no reason. I still have no idea why he did it, but it doesn't matter anymore. He completely broke my heart, and I had no idea what to do. So I turned to the boy I had been best friends with (we'll call him drew) until I started dating Chris. Drew had always liked me, but I never felt that way about him, so I just ignored it. After I started dating Chris, he got a girlfriend, and we were both happy. The night Chris broke up with me, I spent 3 hours on the phone with Drew. He became my best friend again. We talked on the phone all the time, and passed notes to each other during school. Drew's girlfriend didn't like that too much, but I didn't care. He was helping me heal my broken heart. But then in March something changed. We were falling in love with each other. We ended up holding hand, and then kissing, while he was still dating his girlfriend. Afterwords he felt really guilty, because he loved her as much as he loved me. So he told her what happened. They broke up, but I could see how unhappy it made him to have to make the choice between me and her. So I told him to go back to her, and he did. I was miserable, but he was happy, and that was all that really matter. At first we were still really close, but slowly he drifted away from me, to the point where he wouldn't even talk to me. I dated some guy for a month or so this summer, and I thought I was over drew, but I wasn't. I can't get over him. He's started talking to me again recently, and I'm falling for him again. He's still dating that girl. She leaves for college today. He promised me that he'd break up with her when she went to college, but he isn't going to. They love each other too much. And I'm not going to bring it up again, because he's just now speaking to me again. I just don't know what to do. Ugh.

So that's my story. Well, it's a short version, but I think you get the idea.
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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby cynb » Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:22 pm

That is really hard, so is dating. Something I found out the hard way was that sometimes you need to suffer through something like this to be able to appreciate something better later. This advice may suck or be unwanted, but waiting is the hard part. I suggest getting some awesome girls who you can hang out with and really get involved in things. Maybe pick up dancing, and then after you find yourself and have time to heal you can move on past Drew and then be happy for him. Good luck, It is really hard to lose your best friend.
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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby Conzoni al vento » Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:39 pm

Thanks Pel for putting this back up!

from the old lex.. I'm still me, COnzoni.
So that day i DID go to Lu's party.
i'm pretty glad i did because it was alot easier than i thought it would be,really.
And i found out that he hadnt gone to the club, as i suspected.
and he sat on me, hugged me, and rubbed high knees up against my thigh, and talked to his mother about me (previously so that she knew about the concert situation!) and none of it bothered me. yay!

Wow. sounds like a huge love triangle. I think that you have to decide for now if you can be happy with someone else and see Drew being happy with her or if you would be ONLY ahppy with drew. This can be complicated. But think about his girlfriend. Not to make you feel any worse but she loves him too. Maybe you can talk with him about this. What happened with/to Chris? I know it's exceptionally hard to get ovr someone (belive me, ask the other people on this thred when they come on!) but eventually it will happen. If you can both be happy, together or with other people, you both have to decide which way that is going to work most efficiently.
Another question: Why did you tell him to go back to her??? Just curious because you did like him, so part of you wants him to be happy, but it still made you miserable it sounds like. Although i can see a bit of your selfless point- it was a big thing to do and showed you were a good person for thinking about him before your own heart.

Now i can't wait till CHristine, V, SxL, SM, Anna, Holden, Jethro and you other peeps come back here!
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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby *Aros_girl* » Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:45 pm

Thank you so much PEL for putting this back

Ok so everybody I am Aros_girl from the old lex but had to change it a little

Ruby:That does sound like a huge love triangle. Sorry I don't know what to do

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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby simplymortal314 » Thu Aug 21, 2008 4:11 pm

I am here and so is SxL and tiffi.

I think the admins made a mistake because there is another dating thread in wich we have posted already.
Here's a link: Dating thread.
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Re: The Dating Thread

Postby Ruby » Thu Aug 21, 2008 11:45 pm

I told drew to go back to her because I didn't want to make him choose. He loved her, and I was afraid that one day he would hate me for ruining his relationship with her. I don't think I really like him anymore, because he's hurt me to much for me to still like him. I don't really want to be with him, but I don't feel like I could be happy with anyone else. I guess it'll just take time. I would really like to be good friends with him again, but he doesn't seem to really want to be friends with me. When I talk to him online, he says we should hang out more, but when I see him at band practice or whatever and I try to talk to him, he ignores me. It's like he wants to be friends, but not in public.

And I got over Chris...he has a new girlfriend now, and I'm happy for him. I guess I'm happy for Drew that things are going so well with him and his girfriend, but I think I'm more bitter than anything else. I didn't expect him to completely disappear from my life.
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